From time to time when I come home after work or shopping, Trucker is so happy to see me that he blocks my way, sits patiently, and puts his front paws up like he’s begging.
I stop to acknowledge him, and he places those paws on my thighs as I bend down. He leaves them there, demanding what I have learned is a hug.
I wrap my arms around him and tell him, “I love you.” He then bounces on happily fulfilled.
I adopted Trucker at age five. This touching act of hugging initially shocked me and brought tears to my eyes. I still wonder if he learned it before he met me or simply developed the action based on how often I hug him. I hug him when he sleeps, when he stands, when he eats, whenever I get the chance.
The first time I cried in his presence, he trotted to me, put his front paws up on me, and sniffed my face wanting to comfort me. I was so touched that I cried harder. I told him, “Thank you. I love you, too.”
One evening when I was working at my desk, I sniffed a couple of times, and Trucker, who was lying on my bed in an adjoining room, quickly raised his head and watched me from a distance. I could tell he was assessing if he should come in to comfort me. I waved to him and said, “I love you,” and he watched me until he was sure I was okay.
His love and desire to hug doesn’t stop with me.
A friend visited our home one evening and started to cry over a family situation. Trucker rushed to her, and with his long-legged, long-bodied self, stood on his hind legs and put his front paws on her chest. She embraced him in tears as he embraced her. When he felt she was consoled, he stood beside her.
On a visit to a pet supply store, Trucker began pulling me with his leash. I noticed that a young boy was approaching and Trucker wanted to greet him. He abruptly sat in front of the boy, put his front paws up and rested them on the boy’s shoulders. The boy laughed as I told him, “He just wants to hug you.” They embraced. The boy laughed, and then they parted. The scene made me tear up.
A neighbor who babysits Trucker has learned to accept his hugs. She is petite, and Trucker’s front paws can reach way above her head if he stands on his hind legs in front of her. He’s managed to semi-delicately place them on her chest or shoulders as she tells him, “I love you, too.” Often he speaks to her over our chain-link fence, his paws towering over the fence top and plopping against her shoulders.
Recently another neighbor stopped to visit as Trucker and I were in our front yard. She owns a little Terrier named Jack who is the same age as Trucker and came from the same shelter.
As she talked to me about a past dog she owned who had died, she started to cry. When her voice faltered, Trucker trotted to her, stood in front of her, and raised up on his hind legs to put his front paws on her chest. A petite senior, she was startled, yet laughed and hugged him back. He left dirty paw prints on her white jacket and went back to playing with Jack.
I recently came across an article about hugging your dog on the Mother Nature Network. In the story, titled “Why dogs don’t like to be hugged,” a certified applied animal behaviorist noted that dogs, in general, do not like to be hugged and most assuredly would not hug back.
Hugs, the behaviorist said, show assertion of dominance, go against their social instincts as a species, and, in general, on a “hugging like-dislike scale,” dogs skews toward “dislike” when it comes to hugs.
An April 24, 2013, story on Dogster by dog behaviorist Melissa Berryman also covered the topic of dogs and hugs. In it, the author stressed that dogs do not say “I love you” with hugs and that we also shouldn’t hug them. The story generated more than 150 comments as readers debated the topic.
While some dogs may shy away from human hugs, Trucker loves to be embraced. Perhaps it’s similar to his love for being wrapped in blankets when he sleeps and sometimes an anti-anxiety shirt when it storms.
After being discarded multiple times in his first five years of life, he seems to show thankfulness by returning hugs to people.
For humans, hugs can be healing when it comes to illness, anxiety, stress, loneliness, and depression. The act of hugging builds trust, relaxes muscles, and teaches us about love of self and others.
Trucker seems to know this. Hugging is another mysterious, beautiful, unique aspect of his personality that makes me, and others, smile.
Does your dog like to hug? Tell us about it in the comments!
Read more about life with Trucker by Tracy Ahrens:
- Does Your Dog Ever Get So Scared He Hurts Himself?
- Does Your Dog Love to Play on Your Freshly Made Bed?
- Let’s Talk: Does Your Dog Love to Roll in Stinky Things?
About the author: Tracy Ahrens is a veteran journalist, author of Raising My Furry Children, artist, and mom to three rescued cats and one dog. Read more of her work at tracyahrens.weebly.com and raisingmyfurrychildren.weebly.com.
3 thoughts on “Does Your Dog Like to Hug You?”
Very sweet article! I like your perspective.
I have this odd connection with dogs, where even one's that are terrified of everyone will be ecstatic to see me and will most often embrace me in a hug as if they really missed me somehow. Their owners are always so shocked because both actions have never been seen from their pets. I see those articles too about dogs perceiving hugs as a dominance move, but it's hard to believe that the emotions I am seeing from them is representing anything other than affection. There is definitely a different between an attentive dog jumping up on you in their territory and one that embraces you with longing looks joyfulness and nuzzles. I think this type would fall under the category of cuddling, which is discussed as being a good thing for dogs. They are also very smart and intuitive so many of them likely can tell that hugging is one of the ways we show affection and cuddle and are often willing or happy to do things our way.
My rescue dog hugs me and my husband a lot but always on his terms. No mistaking it is a hug. So I have to differ with the experts. We had a golden retriever that would also hug but our dog now really leans into it and stays for quite a while before leaving.
Darby is a rescue dog. Litter abandoned at 1 day and turned over to a vet. We adopted at about 7 weeks. Cuddled on me, head against my neck, all 40 miles home.
Loves to crawl on my lap, cuddle, hug, etc even now at 3 years and 55 lbs. Always instigated by him. He is my Velcro dog.
Loves my wife too but treats me slightly different. Absolutely loves kids but goes crazy with strangers. Will eventually warm up to them after sniffing, etc.